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South City Bulletin said...
Book Review from South City Bulletin
After reading Stephen Dale's frank retelling of his near fatal accident and agonising recovery I think, perhaps for the first time, I know what it's like inside someone else's mind, writes Kim Bauman.
Bouncing Back is about a young man who fell off a steep cliff onto exposed rocks below; the shocking injuries he suffered, and the resulting brain damage. It is about Dale's rediscovery of his identity and his long road to healing facing what seem like insurmountable obstacles with sheer doggedness.
But beyond the accident itself, Dale begins his story as a child, well before that fateful day on the cliff. He takes us through the daily torment he suffered for years at the hands of schoolyard bullies and how his methods for coping gradually become his worst enemies. An overbearing attitude along with drugs and alcohol would literally become his downfall.
Dale's broken body took a year to mend, his damaged brain much longer. His present-tense recounting of his months in hospitals, the searing pain and coming to terms with cognitive failure is never sugar coated, but is told with a self effacing wit that often had me laughing aloud.
Whilst reading, I lived through the embarrassing helplessness and crippling depression that Dale describes with blunt eloquence. Although it was his unique ability to illustrate the confusion, paranoia and disassociation of brain damage that was truly insightful.
For this reason alone, I would highly recommend Bouncing Back to doctors, nurses and family members of patients suffering from brain injury. Likewise, the realities and repercussions of bullying make Dale's book essential reading for education professionals and parents.
As for me, I don't fall into any of these categories; but taking Dale's journey of determination with him was truly inspirational and proved to me that with willingness anything is possible.
Kim Bauman
Ché Phillips said...
I first met Stephen back at the end 2010 at a support meeting for Acquired Brain Injury on the Sunshine Coast, Queensland. I suffered a brain injury in 2009 when I lost control of my motorbike and I fell 40 meters down a cliff while riding on Springbrook Mountain on the Gold Coast. When I first received Stephens book ‘Bouncing Back When You Hit Rock Bottom’ it was so soon after my accident that I found it hard to read. Even though I was reading about Steve, it brought wave after wave of difficult emotions over me and it hit way too close to home so to speak. But I have since stumbled across his book again and started reading it – now I can’t put it down!
I love how real and honest Steve is, and now the parts that affected me originally; I can really relate to and now draw comfort from. It won’t matter who you are or what you have experienced, you will find this book both touching and inspirational.
Ché Phillips
John Milne said...
Congratulations Steve! Bouncing Back When You Hit Rock Bottom is the most powerful and moving book I've read for many years.Your story of the ten year battle to recover and to re-build your life is real and raw. With incredible courage and persistence you fought your way back to life.Thank you for your bravery in re-living the physical,mental and emotional pain you endured as a boy and as a man.This would have defeated a lesser person.;it is humbling to recognize you as a true overcomer.In having coffee with you recently, I was inspired by your desire to teach us new lessons.Every day your successful,speaking,training and coaching business is giving women and men of all ages a future and a hope!Power on!
Christopher Fitch said...
After reading only part of the book I already felt that I knew you personally. I've never had a book do that to me before. I relate to many of your school experiences and childhood. You write in such a powerful way….as if I was actually there experiencing. I am able to understand the pressures, pain, trauma and the intense battles involved with severe brain and bodily injuries. I have already told people about what an amazing guy you are and the difference you are making to my life and to anyone lucky enough to be touched by your shining light of inspiration. Your a true kingpin. Cheers, Christopher.
Val Smart said...
What a book.
I cannot recall reading anything like this before, especially in first person. I could not rush through in my usual style. The journey back ( or should I say bounce?) was such an incredible and traumatic experience. Even to read about it was a real journey. And although your words were superb they can only be a shadow of the reality you have experienced. I am still staggered and amazed. Thanks for the sharing with us.
Trish Jenkins said...
Loved the book!
I picked up your book and couldn't put it down. I alternatively wept and marveled. Not only is it a moving and inspiring story, but you remain relatable in it. It’s not just about recovering from unbelievable injuries, you reveal other issues that society can and should address such as bullying. This is a book that should be read by both policy makers and high school students. You have messages for so many levels of society. I pray it becomes a catalyst for change!
Thank you for telling your story.
Trish Jenkins, Brisbane
Vicki Lennox said...
Just wanted to thank you for your book, "Bouncing Back When You Hit Rock Bottom". I have to tell you that although I didn't experience the bullying you did at school at the hands of your fellow students nor did I fall off a cliff and suffer the physical trauma and pain you did, I totally related to you almost every step of the way. My teachers were the bullies because I happen to be left handed. I learned at a very early age that I "wasn't good enough". I carried this with me and allowed it to severely limit every endeavour and aspect of my life for fifty years.
I too, have chosen to use all those experiences and the lessons learned to inspire and motivate young people to find their purpose and live it and their life to the full. Reading your book has helped me get over the remaining self-doubt and fear to say “Yes, yes, yes" and "have a go". Thank you, Stephen for inspiring me to get back in the game.
Emma Sedgwick said...
Hi Steve, I finished your book and my goodness, it was an extremely vivid and traumatic account not only of your upbringing but of the accident. At times you made me laugh but most times you made me cry. It was such a gripping account. Your determination and will power is phenominal and something I have taken away from reading the book amongst other lessons in life. So for that I thank you.
It must have been so tough reliving it all but at the same time, somewhat thearaputic and no doubt would have provided you with closure and the ability to close certain chapters in your life and look at moving forward and opening new chapters. Goodness me, it was difficult to put the book down. Steve, I honestly wish you every success, you're an inspiration to us all. Best wishes, Emma
Vince Whelan said...
I am writing because I have just finished your book and I thoroughly enjoyed it. I had the brain anuerism and hemorrhage after a motorbike accident. Your situation was immensley worse than mine, but I found lots of small similarities between your recovery and mine eg. gym workouts, the urgency to get license back and thoughts of self-doubt. I also have deep regret for the grief I put my family, by doing something stupid (riding my new motorbike to fast). And strangely I also owned a baby shit yellow Datsun 180B for my first car. I look forward to catching one of your motavational talks one day. You are so inspirational with your recovery.
Christopher Elliott said...
Very vivid account of what happened, extremely inspiring story of rebuilding a life. Took my emotions on a journey through horror at what happened, revenge towards bullies, forgiveness, celebration and amazement. Who said there is no God.
Annie Grossman - Annie's Books on Peregian said...
I first met Steve in my bookshop, where he told me his incredible story of a life spiralling into disaster, culminating in a horrific accident which brought him very close to death. This accident, according to Steve, saved his life! I recently held a small event for Steve, and although I felt that I already knew the story, finally picked up and read "Bouncing Back When You Hit Rock Bottom". I can honestly say that, in around 50 years of reading, I have not read a more personal book, and there are not many stories which have moved me like Steve's. The book is written in the first person, which gives the reader direct access to Steve's physical, emotional and spiritual pain and suffering. The book begins in his childhood, where much of the emotional injury occurred, continues down the route which led him to that cliff on Phillip Island, and then across the excruciating years of recovery to where Steve is today. His story is simply amazing. That a human being can survive being torn apart emotionally and physically,and find the will to overcome immense hurdles, is ecouraging and inspirational. It's a tough read, travelling by Steve's side through the day to day terrors and tribulations, but well worth the journey. Congratulations, Steve, on presenting the reading public with a jewel- a book which is fascinating, compelling and potentially life changing.
Annie Grossman
Annie's Books on Peregian
Martyn Fleming said...
How did I come across Steve's compelling story? I first heard Steve speak at a business networking event, then at another event and then a few more. After bumping into each other here, there and everywhere, I started to spend some time with Steve off-line and I finally read his book, "Bouncing Back when you Hit Rock Bottom". Getting to know Steve first made for an even more captivating reading experience, where I found myself drawing the dots between Steve's earlier years (before and after his horrific 'arrival') and the Steve I know today.
There are many relatable stories throughout the book. One that comes to mind is the upside-down photo in the library book – I can think of many people whose lives are similar (in denial about the relationships they're in, their capabilities, how much they enjoy their job, etc)! The book takes you on journey where you'll wince, be uncomfortable, be challenged, inspired and laugh out loud.
One of the strongest messages I received while reading Bouncing Back would be about discovering your purpose in life, finding your inner strength to achieve it and shrugging off the noisy nay-sayers, disbelievers or other negative influences in our lives and then beating a path to achieve your success, one step at a time!
Steve is a very brave man in who much he reveals in this book, cutting to the very core of his own frailty and weakness, but balancing this with some extreme feats of strength and endurance. Most people would be flat out being this honest with themselves, let alone publishing it in a book!!
There are thousands of reasons this Tiger should be smiling… Excellent work, Steve!!
Lester Weston said...
Bouncing back when you hit rock bottom is a raw,honest inspiring book portraying the absolute resilience of a man in the greatest struggle of his life. I also am a nurse and would encourage anyone who works in the health industry to read this book before your next shift as the professional you are now will change after reading this.And thank you to Steve for sharing your life with us so honestly and comically.I wish Steve further prosperity in his business and would certainly recommend him to anyone wanting a dynamic speaker and a man of integrity,then he is the person you require.
Trish Symons said...
When I first met Steve, I was amazed and enthralled by his story and the amazing life he has led. His approach to life has motivated me and empowered me to achieve things I never thought possible..
However, after reading his book, and the personal pain he suffered, my respect for him as a survivor has grown to even greater levels. He has highlighted to me the massive pain that bulling has on the individual and the life long affects that this has on victims of this hideous cruelty.
I hope that this book changes the lives of those who struggle with their past and pray that this book gives them the encouragement to tackle life with a renewed committment to overcome the afflictions that life often deals to us all, some to a greater extent than others.
Steve Dale is truly an inspiration to me and I am sure his story will change the lives of many.
Tom Burnard said...
When I was first given this book to read I mentally classified it as another accident victim’s long road to physical recovery similar to other people’s hospital experiences. I was in for a shock for this book deals so graphically about mental trauma brought about not just by physical brain injury, but also past demons of school bullying and subsequent substance abuse. Written in first person, the author’s account of his harrowing recovery from his shocking injuries, sustained from falling 30 metres over a rocky coastal cliff at Phillip Island in Victoria, is very confronting and at the same time enthralling to read. At age 21, the extent of his injuries, including a shattered scull, a dislocated and fractured spine and ruptured internal organs should have killed him off. But he escaped death’s door by a tenuous thread only to begin a tremendous battle to regain his sanity.
The back story of his formative years as a sickly asthmatic child, small for his age and with a strict Baptist upbringing saw him become the victim of constant and vicious bullying at High School. I was astounded at the sadistic and brutal treatment he suffered and discovered that those feelings that I had when I was a child at school paled in comparison. He was between a rock and a hard place- on the one hand he tried to live up to his parents’ religious tenets of forgiveness, gentleness, loyalty and politeness, yet he was receiving the exact opposite from his peers; his world was filled with pain, guilt and fear. He started to wonder who he really was to deserve such bullying and what he was supposed to believe. To survive he started to smoke, drink, take tablets and talk trash like the rest of them. Post school the habit continued through his unproductive career until his tragic accident at Phillip Island.
The description of the next seven months spent in hospital is told with rare candour and honesty. His journey as seen through an injured brain and a body contained in a cast and racked in pain is both engaging and enthralling. His symptoms of confusion, dizziness, concentration, poor memory, mood changes, embarrassment and failure are all there to see. I found myself on an emotional rollercoaster close to tears as I tried to understand his inability to read, write and speak. Theories abounded about brain trauma but no one had written a firsthand experience of what to expect. Through it all and ever present in his mind was the battle with his guilt and failure syndrome, versus his doggedness and determination to go the hard yards, stop complaining and think through positive strategies. Re-engaging with life is described with brutal clarity; he was unemployable, could not move freely and living in the grip of constant pain. We can all thank him for having the courage to revisit the demons of his past and his medical experience is an invaluable guide to surviving brain injury. His ten year battle to mend his broken life has seen him emerge as a successful motivational speaker and coach. Remarkable as the story is, it is extremely well written and unforgettable.
Tom Burnard
Lisa Allen said...
Steve, your book was a reality check for me in two ways. Having two children 10 & 12, who have on occasion mentioned bullying at school your story woke me up to the reality of what that means for them and how I can support them. Secondly, having been injured in a fall two years ago and struggling through 3 surgeries with another to go, I often felt, although strongly supported by my amazing family and friends, alone. Your book allowed me to feel supported in a way I hadn't felt, in reading your struggles, realising others have lived through this too, and more importantly survived. You have given me the mental strength to keep going. I now refer to your book at times when i'm low because it allows me to find ways of coping. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for writing and sharing your story. You have made a very real difference to my life.
Lis
Sarah Lock said...
Steve’s inspirational and powerful book rewrites the story of neurological injury and outcome. His interest is in regaining and revealing ability rather than dwelling on disability. Steve teaches us that strength of spirit, faith, willingness and dogged perseverance can overcome mountainous physical and psychological hurdles. He gives voice to the frequently unspoken or unrecognized thoughts and internal drives of people imprisoned by communication difficulties after head injury or stroke.
Steve’s narrative illuminates the transformation in function and everyday life that is achievable even years after neurological insult, and beyond what most rehabilitation professionals facilitate or acknowledge as possible. Steve is proof of the power of positive thinking and positive action over the brain: he could have been one of Norman Doidge’s ‘case studies’ in ‘The Brain that Changes Itself’.
‘Bouncing Back’ is essential reading for all medical and allied health professionals working in rehabilitation. Steve’s inside story tells us more about the effects of head injury and the personal resources that can be harnessed to overcome them than most text books, and forces us to reconsider the extent to which our professional intervention helps or hinders outcome.
Sarah Lock, Speech Pathologist, Sunshine Beach Speech Pathology.
Faye Caughey said...
We recently had the privilege of having Stephen Dale as the Keynote speaker at a workshop with our clients. Stephen’s story resonated with us as business coaches as well as the nearly 70 business owners who were in attendance. Stephen’s amazing journey reflects the journey of business in so many ways. His message is insightful and impactful. 2 days after the workshop I read Stephen’s book cover to cover in 6 hours – I couldn’t put it down!! Thank you very much Stephen for sharing your journey with us; for reminding us that if we are willing we CAN achieve the seemingly impossible. You truly are an inspiration.
Rob and Faye Caughey, Directors Kaizen Coaching Queensland (representing ActionCOACH Business Coaching)
Tricia Tanner said...
I wanted to say how I enjoyed reading Bouncing Back - such a personal story that at times must have been pretty difficult for you to re-live and put into words. I'm amazed at your strength of body and mind to overcome such major disabilities and come out the other end a positive and even stronger person for the experience. Then to become a public speaker and share with others (friends and strangers) what you had to work through during those years, what you learnt, your goals and aspirations, and to then go on to inspire others. A great achievement of the human spirit Well done Steve!
Lou Guevara said...
WOW! What a ride! Anyone who thinks they don't need to read this book is deluding themselves. Steve’s story tells exactly how he got over his challenges. We are lucky that all we need to do is read this book and learn how to apply that simple lesson – just be willing! Thanks Steve for sharing your life.
Mark Ryan MP said...
"Bouncing Back" is an amazing account of the life of an amazing person. As a society, we often underestimate the power of words. But Stephen's words provide us with an inspiring message – it is a message of hope, courage and questioning. His words challenge us to love life and to use our talents and experiences to be positive role models. "Bouncing Back" is essential reading for those who are seeking fulfillment in their lives. Stephen, well done on your book and all that you have achieved to date – I know that this is just the beginning!
Andrew Gallagher said...
Stephen you are an incredible speaker and a true survivor. The first time I had heard you speak inspired me to make sure others heard your story. I was privileged that you came and told your story to our Chamber of Commerce. I also brought my teenage son to hear what you had been through. Since then you have become an idol for him and your goals showed him what a person can achieve if they are willing. I even bought several of your books just so I could help others look at how they can attain their own goals.
Thanks again Stephen, you have definitely gained a fan here.
Phil Box said...
Just finished reading the book. Great read. A lot of it resonated in me through having experienced some of what you had gone through. No, I haven’t had a brain injury but I can relate to the bullying at school. I went to about 16 different schools and at every one of them the tough kids had to find at how good I was at fighting. Being that my mum had told me to never hit back and I was a good boy who thought that I needed to obey my parents I was indeed a target.
I was particularly interested in the theme of fault and blame. The book for me diverted away from that theme towards more of his recovery which is fine, still was riveting nonetheless. I’d love it if Steve was ever to write a book majoring on the theme of dealing with fault and blame. The book really dealt well with such a difficult subject. Thanks Steve for baring your entire soul and giving me a very deep insight into your life. Congratulations on such a great book. I only wish you the very best success for your every endeavour.
Fellow Journeyman said...
This is a tough book. The raw honesty of it cuts into the heart, ripping away illusions, and confronts us with a shared reality that might just be too much for some. This is not a book to take lightly. Anyone planning to read this should be prepared for something unlike any other autobiography they might have read before. There is no glossing over things in Stephen's book, no smoothing out of the rough; it is gritty, hardcore, in places unpleasant, unsettling, and very uncomfortable: but then truth so often is all of that and more. If you hunger for truth, for reality, and you are tired of the Hollywood style, motivational superstar, the secret, the 'you can do it all!' fluff that we seem to be drowning in these days, then Bouncing Back is definitely the book for you. If you're hurting, hiding, and feel so very alone, this is the book for you. Stephen demonstrates tremendous courage in allowing others to take a glimpse into his very soul and experience that which we so rarely know about others, what they are really like inside. I know what darkness is like, I have lived within it for most of my life, and Stephen's story felt for me like the reaching out of someone, the touch of their hand, saying "You’re not alone in this! I've been there! I've made it out! You can too!" Only someone who has been there can really understand the pain those like me suffer through, and Stephen's story is a glimpse of light in that dark place that we feel trapped in. If you know someone who is suffering, who struggles with depression, self-loathing, whatever it may be, you would serve them well if you gave them a copy of Bouncing Back. It may not change their life, it might not fix anything, but for certain, it will bring comfort to them. And if you are one of those fortunate enough not to dwell in, or to have known this darkness, then it is worth the read, because it will make you a better friend to those who have and do.
Barry Lane said...
Wow. What an amazing read. You took me on a roller coaster ride of emotion – there were parts throughout your story that made me feel sad, made me laugh, made me cry and made me cringe. What I learnt from your book is how amazing the brain is and how powerful is the will to survive and succeed. You are a walking miracle – you deserve every future sucess that life brings to you.
Barry Lane, The Coffee Club, Springwood
Terri Cooper said...
In a word… WOW! I've heard Steve speak on a number of occasions, but this book really delivers the full story of just how determined and powerful Steve is.. I had no idea of the trauma and difficulties Steve had been through. What did it mean for me? You really don't realise how lucky you are and we take simple things like being able to walk without pain for granted. It also made me see that everything is mind over matter and if you really want something, then there is nothing that can stop you from achieving it.
Thanks Steve for an inspiring book and for sharing your very personal journey with us.
Terri Cooper
Terri Cooper Networking Events
Kristen Higgins said...
After finishing 'Bouncing Back' nearly a week ago, I wanted to think long and hard about the words I would offer on such an incredibly honest and personal story. The story is crafted by the hard work and determination of a man bold enough to expose his weakness, fragility, and his deepest and darkest moments. Steve shows the world that it is only when you have given up on yourself that the battle is truly over.
I've spoken to friends and colleagues reading this book and we've used words like 'confronting', 'inspiring', 'powerful', and 'incredible'… All of which I'm sure you have felt too as readers! What is most 'confronting' is the challenge posed to the reader while reading as Steve challenged himself with the same question 'Who Am I?' I found myself looking at my own self talk, my own weaknesses, my psychological approach to the day as the sun rises to boot me out of bed in the morning.
Steve's journey challenges us all in different ways. What you feel, the way you react, and the well of imagery and untapped memories that present themselves are in fact your own demons and your own personal struggles. The bravery of the author who bares all for his reading audience struck a chord with me, and made me wonder if I have ever been as honest with anyone in my life before.
Steve, you have an incredible determination in life, a passion to learn, to teach, and to be someone you are proud of. This book says an phenomenal amount about your calibre as a person and as a mentor! Congratulations on creating something so unique and special through your ability to present the reader with the facts, the questions, and the opportunity to challenge themselves in their own space.
Joslyn Gardiner said...
What a brilliant book. I could not put it down. How he adapted and changed to the circumstances and challenges is a testiment not only to the courage and determination of Stephen but also to the plastisity of our brains. Never Give up and Never submit to "conventional Wisdom". The absolute power of Mind control, determination and pure guts. We can DO anything, so long as we believe we can and keep moving forward. Well done Stephen and Thank you.
Kerry Hargreaves said...
After hearing you speak at Key Business Network I needed to know more about your journey. I started reading your book and did not put it down until it was finished. Every parent and teacher should read this book. It lets you get inside the head of a victim of bullying and helps you to understand their thinking and their pain. It is not enough to say ignore and it will go away because it obviously doesn't. Congratulations on having the courage to take the journey once more to help others avoid that painful path so they do not have to arrive at the end.
Debra Jarvis said...
Steve, Great Book!!
Very Gutsy, how you had the courage to mentally take yourself back to the events of your life, I'm sure you would rather forget, to encourage others is remarkable! I couldn't put your book down, read it from cover to cover within 3 days. Well written, easy to understand, and great message, I'm sure that it will become life-changing for the many people who will read it, inspiring them to make better decisions, make any decision, decide to live life with purpose.
Breaking through the pain barrier as you have done is no mean feat and as a person I met you before I ever heard your story or read your book, you were already someone I held in high regard due to your 'presence'.
Through your book you have challenged me to focus on solutions (and I thought I already did that)!
All that's left to say is read Steve's book "Bouncing Back When You Hit Rock Bottom" It's possible and Steve lives it!
PS He's also a great Motivational Speaker! Debra Jarvis :-)
Ken & Lynne Hare said...
Your recent presentation at the Caboolture Business Enterprise Centre was inspirational.. All to often we allow ourselves to get in our own way… with percieved rather than real problems… Your story has emphasised, anything is possible if you truely believe.. Recommended reading for my business group (for anyone else read it) it reminds me of the quote "When your going through hell, keep going" the journey makes us who we are!!!!!!
Vicki said...
Amazing recovery and willpower!! Rock Bottom is not always rock bottom – if your willpower is not strong enough, you can sink further than you thought was possible! But the heights….. !!!!! I read the book in 2 days and now it's making the rounds of my family!
Our choices are only limited by what we think – others beliefs have no relevance in our situations – this is exactly what your book is saying. A must read for all!
Peter Burrows said...
Steve, yours is truly and amazing and inspirational story. Yet for me, this is not just your story, but a story about everyone of us.We all suffer from our own fears, adversities and self blame. We often blame others for our situation and quick to deny any responsibility. It has been our past decisions and actions which have resulted in where we are today. However the real message in your book is we all have a choice, we can all change our lives if we are willing to do so, if we are prepared to work hard, if we really really want to.
As a business coach I took many learnings from your story and will use them as examples to clients how they can make changes in their business if they are prepared to make changes in themselves. For my clients your book will be mandatory reading and I would also recommend it to all other business owners or anyone in business as a must read.
Marilyn Shackel said...
Steve, what an amazing account of your life! I found it very hard to put down. Every person who has ever been a bully needs to read it, in fact it should be compulsory reading at schools. At times I found your book very raw and heartbreaking but amazingly inspiring, I will never complain about going to the gym or aches and pains again! Your speech at our Key Business Network meeting just gave me a small peek into your world but your book gave me so much more. Thank you so much for having the courage to fight for your life so you could inspire the rest of us to never give up.
Nantha Lingam said...
Found this book very 'raw' and powerful. Had to read it over 2 sessions as I found myself getting worked up by what was happening in his life. Steve’s life was a life I could not imagine. But his style in writing made it alive to me! I've not stop talking about the book and its been several months now! His insight into what bullying does, has made me more aware of the issue especially with those around me. Steve’s courage and determination to recover and his ability to forgive is an inspiration for eveyone. I look forward to more from him.
Lily said...
My name is Lily and I am 14 years old. I got Steve’s book from the “Dream It Up” foundation at Logan where he did a speech. At first I was unsure about his book but I soon realized how heartfelt and amazing Steve and his book is. i don't do drugs, drinking (water yeah..) or anything like that but the way he recovered and never gave up and fought everyday made me rethink my outlook on life and what people have to go through each day. Thank you Steve for giving me a different look on life (and obviously i'm not thanking you for falling off a cliff because that would be sick.) Please if your stuggling with life read his book. It'll make you cry tears of rage,joy, and sadness. It also made me laugh a bit. It’s an interesting book when you get into it and is hard to put down!
Clare Edwards said...
Thank you Steve on behalf of everyone who has needed a kick up the proverbial for writing this book. At times it's hard to reconcile everything as the book is so well written, yet his candour and frank style brings us back to reality with a thump. God knows why some of our journeys are so much harsher than others; yet I am sure the ripple effect of his lessons in life through this book will be so far reaching he may never in his lifetime get to comprehend.
This book is as good as the amount of people it can reach and I for one will be finding a way to help Steve get his message out there on the impact of bullying, courage, tenacity and the willingness to do whatever it takes. Thank you oh Grand Master Bouncer!
Shaun said...
Hi Steve, really appreciate the opportunity to speak to you on Between the Lines on 31 Digital and looking forward to seeing the show air in a few weeks time. Well done!
Glen Smith said...
Well done Steve, you are an inspiration! Enjoyed your book and you write well. Thought you were a little hard on yourself as you were only a kid at the time. What happened to Lucy and Mr Green BMW?
Best wishes for the future, you really deserve it!
Julie Bannister said...
Steve, Congratulations on completing your book and having the courage to go back 'there' , to relive it (to an extent) and to share your experiences. All of us that have read your book and those who will read it in the future are truely blessed to be able to share and experience it in our own way and to get a different perspective on abuse as well as rehabilitation.
I had heard your story several times when you had presented at our Key Business Network meetings before reading your book. I have since heard you tell your story after reading your book and it makes your story even more powerful.
I asked my son to attend one of our meetings that you were presenting at. He had been feeling quite 'down' and feeling life was against him and did not have a real purpose in life. He came along to hear your presentation and it has totally changed his outlook on life since then. You challenged us all at that presentation that we have to be 'willing to do what it takes' to make changes in our lives and that is what our son is now doing.
Thank you Steve!!!
Myra Williams said...
Well it didn't take me long to finish this book, and I have to say after what has already happened to Steve I can't wait to find out the next chapters of a book relating to his future! If he's come this far with everything going against him, what's going to happen in his life without so many obstacles!
'Inspiring' is just one word you can use to describe Steve, however there would be soooooo many more – 'inspirational', 'determined', 'intelligent', 'crazy', etc etc – the list goes on…
The first time I heard Steve speak I thought 'wow' thats an amazing story, there is truely nothing wrong with this guy to show what he has gone through. However it isn't till you read his book that you really understand his life. Each page filled with obstacles that came from other people, his own personal dilemmas associated with normal growth and society, and then each painful, self willing inch's of determination he endured to gain the life he has now. A life that is still a life in pain, but a life where the pain is overshadowed by love, fun and happiness.
I feel honoured to know such a wonderful person, have him talk at one of my fundraising events already, and I know that he will inspire and help people around the world who face many of the obstacles he has already endured. And the biggest lesson he teaches us is - you have to really want something more than anything else to achieve it, be willing to go the hard yards, stop complaining and think positive, and you to can come out on top!!
So Steve – thanks for sharing your journey!!!
Sam Cawthorn said...
Steve, what can I say but just INSPIRING!!!!!!
Your passion and pure zest for life is contagious. What an incredible remarkable story. I can relate to it a little through things that have happened in my own personal journey, but learning more about your journey of discovery has really helped me in mine. Receiving an email from you today just cemented your true sense of character and strength. it read… "I can honestly say that my worst day was the same day as my best!"
Well done mate. I am truly a better person after reading your book!
Wendy Hurley said...
Thanks Steve for sharing your story. I wish I had this insight when I was a neuro nurse 25 years ago. I would have done a much better job of understanding people with head injuries. I also thank you for sharing your journey of recovery which has helped me on my own journey helping my son recover from a catastrophic brain injury. It is such a long hard road.
Lindsay Stainton said...
This is an amazing read on many levels. Coming from a medical background I found it fascinating to hear the journey directly from the person who experienced the entire journey. I found the first few chapters quite harrowing and the section about bullying was also difficult to read. Definately a book that I will need to read again. Am very proud of your efforts Steve to put your story in writing and sharing with us all. Truly inspirational on many levels and a must read for many!
Joe Piovesan said...
On first hearing his story found it hard to imagine that a human being could go through such a traumatic event and still survive, what appears to the naked eye, rather well. However on reading this book I was blown away by some of its contents and the effect they had on me.
I was amazed at the feelings I had when I read about the bullying. I discovered that those feelings that I had when I was a child at school were still there and continued to resurface as I read through the book. I became quite angry at times that these feelings were still present and though I was tempted to put the book aside I could not stop. It will always be a reminder to me that others have done it tougher than me and that my bullying experiences, or for that matter any other mishaps, were not a scratch on yours.
I was also struck by the severity of the recovery process and the many stages of pain and suffering you went through. It also serves as a reminder to what the human body can endure though I wonder if I would have had your faith and determination to get back to as near as normal life as possible as you have done. This was truly an amazing story written in a very engaging way. Congratulations and best wishes Stephen- you have truly deserved it.
Bruce Cook said...
Steve. What an amazing read. Having been the recipient of some pretty severe bullying at school, as a result of my Mum teaching at the same school, you managed to bring a lot of life and realism into the thoughts and reactions I had at the time. Your book should be compulsory reading for school bullies, and their victims.
Sometimes the best coaches are the ones who have had the biggest journey, and thats why I know your story and book will be a huge inspiration to a lot of people. I know you will keep sharing your journey, because thats what happens when you find your life purpose. Cheers Steve, and I look forward to your next book.
Ewan said...
Congratulations on a great read. A must to any one from all backgrounds, professions and age groups. If you were the bully or the bullied or the disadvantaged or just the 1 who didn't quite fit in, this book is a must. Steve seems to have experienced everything, yet through all things he kept his resilience, persistence and a weird sense of humour to conquer each obstacle as he experienced it. Well done.
Matt said...
Steves' story of life "AD" truly shows that belief, determination and hard work can take you anywhere, however long it takes. I first heard Steve's story several years ago, and have heard Steve several times since but I never fully comprehended the extent of the injuries and recovery until I read his book. I will be reccomending this book to my friends and family.
Steve I'm proud to call you my friend dispite your unwavering support of the Maroons.
Cheryl Simons said...
This book shows that persistence and willingness to move forward regardless of difficulties and obstacles put in our path does enable good things to happen. Steve yours is a truly amazing and inspiring story. Your style of writing, although confronting, gives your readers the experience of being there with you.
Your insights into bullying are illuminating for the many people in our society who have been victims, whether it is at school or at work, who feel isolated and alone because of their experience.
Your willingness to overcome the obstacles you faced is an inspiration and challenges all of us to be willing to do more with our lives.
Karen Phillips said...
Steve, I have just finished your book after meeting you at a Key Business Network breakfast 2 days ago.
I became totally engrossed in your story, and your style of writng made me feel as f I was right there – which was very emotional at times! Thank you for having the courage to put your life into words so effectively, and the grace to share it.
Darren said...
A great account of a tremendous battle – written in the first verse it is very confronting but at the same time enthralling – you just dont want to put it down. I cant believe how descriptive it is – still gagging from the the part of the book when Steve has his body plaster removed. Could almost sense the freedom!
Jen McCauley said...
This book has a special place for me – and for anyone who has ever lacked 'willingness' due to physical, psychological or experiential situations.
The best part was reading it after hearing you speak – I am loaning it to everyone around me and they are enjoying it also
Julie Bragger said...
I can't put words to this book. Or should I say I can but it just doesn't seem to explain adequately what Steve's life was like up until now. I have spoken to many people about this book and I sound like a raving lunatic.
I found myself reading at stop lights. I even parked my car next to construction site knowing i was blocking a concrete truck and I thought he will just have to wait until I have finished the chapter.
Steve, you have jolted me into gear. Wasn't that your purpose??? Thanks for writing the book, I am very happy that you found the confidence and had the strength to finally write it. You are one inspirational guy!
Anthony Willis said...
Determination and persistence are the cold steel rails on which Steve achieves some lofty goals. With strong focus, Steve manages to overcome massive obstacles and proves that the human spirit can be supremely resilient.
Winston Churchill's cry comes to mind – "Never, never, never give up! "
Steve himself is living evidence, that we actually can reshape the person we falsely believe ourselves to be and behind it all, of the incredible power of praying parents.
I finished the book in a day even though I was cross-eyed at 3am, it is compelling reading.
I am using Steve's encouragement and mantra and creating the evidence I needed to bring about change personally and at my business..
To experience 'The Smiling Tiger' is to get a kick in the pants and an injection of steel in the backbone.
Thanks Steve – I really needed that !
Wayne Jones said...
Steve, I just want to congratulate you on your book.
It was in parts inspiring, confronting and quite emotional. I have heard you talk about willingness but I think your story goes beyond that. It describes a level of determination and resilience in overcoming rejection and setbacks that can only be imagined by those of us who have not walked in your shoes. For those people that supported you through your long rehabilitation process they are to be admired, but I think you have done them a wonderful service in making the most of your life and writing this book.
The book goes beyond a story of recovering from a brain injury and is a handbook for those suffering in their lives, and should be a wake-up call to those who have led blessed lives. Some people leave footprints in their lives for others to follow and I believe you, and your story, will be amongst that group of special people.
All the best.
Jo Hall said...
Thank you so much for taking the time to write this book Steve! It is an incredibly personal story that must have been extremely difficult to write.
I found "Bouncing Back" a really easy and enjoyable read and I loved hearing from other people's perspectives as to what they were experiencing at the same time as you.
I am not usually a non-fiction reader, but would highly recommend this book to anyone. It is so much more than a story about your accident, it is more about life and lessons learnt. There are passages at the end of the book that are particularly relevant to everyone. I have highlighted them and know that I will read them again and again.
Congratulations Steve, I look forward to hearing you speak!
David Smith said...
I was so honored to be sent a copy of Bouncing Back that I was determined to devour its contents immediately; fortunately time permitted and less than half a day later it was completed. As the last page was turned all I could think was “wow”!
Steve, your book took me on a rollercoaster ride of emotions. Many times I found myself close to tears as I tried to associate with your pain, only to be inspired a few pages later by your doggedness and determination. You are indeed a stubborn bugger (of the best kind), that much has NEVER changed; you clearly showed what can be achieved by simply not giving in to your circumstances.
I thank you for writing this book and now understand why it has taken so long to come to pass. It must have hurt to reflect on these issues, but I am sure that many people will be helped and inspired by your thoughtful words. What I appreciated most was the openness, honesty and candid nature of the book – nothing fluffy just to glorify a story.
Whilst I will never suggest that falling off a cliff is a good way to change your life for the better, I am just so proud of what you have become and your journey of getting there. Phillip Island still haunts me, but after reading your book, I am glad that Robin and I did everything we could to keep you in this world.
Yes … I am the David Smith of chapter eight
Cathy Singleton said...
Stephen – thankyou for your courage, honesty, and willingness to keep putting one foot in front of the other. I have long believed that the fortune is always in the follow-through, and you are living proof of that.
Your book is about to appear on my required-reading list in the office!
You're doing great work, Stephen.
Ian Coombe said...
After listening to Stephens amazingly spellbinding chat at a morning business breakfast, i had no hesitation in getting 5 copies of his book for some special people in my life – friends, family and clients – and for me.
As soon as i got home, i opened it up with a cuppa. Many cuppas later … i had to put it down for a while to absorb some issues that it addressed. It sits on my lounge for my cuppa breaks! Each break brings a new aspect to think about. I will post another comment when i have finished … but so far … the inspirational aspect it has brought to me is that no matter how fatigued or defeated, just keep putting one foot forward in front of the other.
Lorraine Day said...
Steve' book takes the reader through his emotional and painful journey so one can understand where his motivational techniques were based on. A very interesting and hard to put down book. Iwould highly recommend it.
David Stock said...
Wow!! I congratulate you Steve on writing such a thought provoking book. I feel it has been a previlage to get to know you better through this book. You are an inspiration to all who are searching for answers on how to move forward in their lives, either in business or their personal life. You have given me clarity, direction and a willingness to persue my goals with a dogged determination. I can't thank you enough.
Everybody should read this book and learn that if you put your mind to it, you can achieve all your hopes, goals and dreams.
Bonnie Ries said...
Steve I heard you talk at a breakfast meeting and was inspired by your story. I bought your book and couldn't put it down it only took me a couple of days to read. Even waking during the night to read another chapter. A very inspiring story. When I am having a bad day I will take inspiration from your story and courage you have showed.
Karen Schmidt said...
I have been waiting eagerly for this book to come out and read it in 2 days. Having finished it, I now have a far greater respect for the man who wrote it.
Steve’s book is confronting. There are parts that, if I’m honest, I didn’t read all the way through because of the level of detail he included. There were other parts where he left out details and invited the reader to fill in the blanks for themselves. Both were highly effective methods for getting his message across. Steve really does make you think about what you are willing to do in your own life to be successful and reach your goals, whatever they are.
If nothing else, I hope this book is a catalyst for everyone to take a good look at the issue of bullying, both in schools and workplaces.
Since finishing Bouncing back I have been recommending it to friends and clients because it is so powerful.
I can’t wait for his next book to come out . . .
Glenn Twiddle said...
I saw Steve speak and invited him to speak at my Qld Real Estate Agents Summit. He blew us all away with his talk but I had no idea…
I have bought dozens of ebooks, actually I would suggest hundreds, and I never have finished a single one. It just is a pain in the butt to read them on your computer screen….all except Bouncing Back.
I read it from virtual cover to virtual cover, in two sittings, in my bed, as uncomfortable as anything, both from having my laptop in bed with me, and from the amazing content in the story.
What a book. I was laughing, in tears and everywhere in between. I told my seminar in the days following my reading that book, that they simply had to buy it. IT wasnt a request, it was a demand.
I feel like when I meet with Steve now, I want to be a better version of myself, and Im a little embarrassed that over the years I haven’t always been the best version of myself that I could be. Daily I try to improve however, and Steve’s book was a wonderful way to hold a mirror up to myself to continually be a better me.
From the bottom of my heart Steve, thank you. To anyone reading my words, here, stop, buy his book, and start reading Stephen Dale’s words. Truly inspiring,
Glenn Twiddle
Matt said...
Steve's book is absorbing, sometimes tough, often very funny and occasionally jaw-dropping. It's an inspiring read for anyone who thinks that it might just be all too hard. Because Steve is brave enough to expose his doubts, his failures and his shortcomings, we come to understand the full meaning of his successes. His book offers wisdom we can all relate to, and it's one helluva story. Highly recommended.
Andrew S of Brisbane said...
It is not a book you can read once. I think it's one I'll revisit again and again. There are so many instances in it where a particular mental outlook led to a particular result for Stephen that, rightly or wrongly, taught him lessons that readers can share and take for themselves.
I would highly recommend "Bouncing Back When You Hit Rock Bottom" to anyone who wants to think in a way that shields them from self defeat and mental habits that hold us back.
Andrew S
Brisbane